Best Apps for Married Couples
2.8 Million. That’s how many apps are on Google Play today.
From to-do lists to banking to online shopping, utilizing apps improves and streamlines certain areas of our lives.
So, why not our marriage?
These relationship-building, game, marriage counseling, intimacy, finance, organization, and exercise tracking apps (free and paid) for married couples are the best ones for 2020.
the best apps for married couples
For better or for worse, our lives are tied to technology.
While many wish they could unplug from technology, there’s no doubt that we also benefit from the convenience of our phones and the services they provide.
Out of the millions of apps out there, can any phone app help our relationship?
Ryan and I decided to do what we do best: research and study the best apps out there for married couples to improve our relationship.
Here’s what we found: the good, the bad, the ugly. We tell you which apps for married couples are worth it, and which ones you should skip.
THE 12 BEST APPS FOR MARRIED COUPLES IN 2020
Here’s your comprehensive guide to the best apps for married couples in 2020:
Hands down, this was the most helpful marriage app for couples that we tested. It’s well designed, simple to use, genuinely helpful, and totally free app for married couples.
Ryan and I talk often in our Just Duo It program how important it is to express love to your partner in an optimal way.
For example, what’s the point of giving gifts to your spouse if they only care about spending quality time with you?
This app guides you through a love language quiz, recommends actions that you can do for your partner, and then asks you to set goals to achieve them.
The goals can be pre-scheduled, like giving a back rub or sending an “I love you” text, with alerts. From there, the app tracks how often you meet these goals, plus how satisfied you are that day with your relationship.
The coolest part? Both you and your partner’s accounts are linked, so you can actively see how happy your partner is over time (a weekly, monthly, and yearly calendar of data is shown), and also what your partner’s love language quiz results are.
There’s also a chat section where you can have a private conversation together.
As two engineers, we love this data and the ability to quantify how happy you are within your relationship.
This is a great app for relationship building and it’s for every couple, no matter how many years you’ve been married.
Relish is the self-proclaimed #1 Relationship Training app, and we have to agree.
“85% of people in couples therapy think their relationship problems are their partner’s fault.”
Relish is the perfect balance of online learning, partner exercises, and real-life coaching. Yes, you read that right. Everyone on Relish is paired with an online relationship coach.
When we signed up, we got JoAnn and were asked to check in with her weekly.
JoAnn chooses hand-picked lessons based on our messages and relationship health quiz answers. Our first lesson was learning how to re-wire your brain for happiness. That was right up our alley!
As a couple who has never been to couple’s therapy before, we were excited about the lessons chosen for us. We feel like we have a strong relationship but wanted to continue improving, and the app completely understood that.
Our lessons included mindful moments, date night ideas, and self-awareness.
The app also covers deeper lessons surrounding conflict resolution and intimacy but is done in a fun and science-backed way. This customized approach to relationship training felt like a game and wasn’t corny, intimidating, or hard.
Both you and your partner can be on the same subscription, with the app downloaded to both of your phones.
The app is $39.99 for one month, or else a yearly subscription of $8.34 a month comes out to $99.99 a year.
This yearly subscription includes a free trial. Don’t miss this app if your marriage could use some guidance. We thought this was hands-down the best marriage counseling app.
Additionally, if you are a couple with trust issues, this is the app for you.
Just as Relish was the self-proclaimed #1 Relationship Training app, Lasting is the self-proclaimed #1 Couples Counseling app. We’ve placed Lasting as our second-place app of choice.
Like Relish, Lasting offers personalized lessons based on you and your partner’s responses to relationship quizzes.
We began with a 4-minute audio recording on what makes a relationship healthy. We loved it and recognized many of the facts from relationship experts like Dr. John Gottman.
The content was solid, but we felt like we were sitting in a lecture hall instead of engaging in a fun and beautiful app as you do with Relish.
I started on 10 lessons about Conflict and enjoyed what I learned, but I found it harder to concentrate during the audio recordings.
Luckily, the written transcript is available to review afterward.
Overall, Lasting offers the best of the science and data surrounding marriage counseling but is presented in a more formal, school course-style which is why it’s our second-best marriage counseling app after Relish.
Also, it does not offer live coaching as Relish does.
Coral is everything we want in a couple’s app: science, data, and experimentation. And the fun part? It’s all about intimacy and sex.
Curated by sex therapists, Coral can be downloaded to both you and your spouse’s phones for a shared account.
Take personal quizzes to learn more about your personal sexuality, as well as tackling what you want out of your intimate life with your partner.
The goal is to improve your health and happiness, and exercises are given for you to do together.
As you may be wondering… yes, some of these exercises are sexual. While our first lesson included a non-sexual exercise recreating a well-known experiment of gazing into each other’s eyes for several minutes (promoting oxytocin), we saw later in the agenda that there were definitely other lessons to spice things up.
This includes an audio exercise written by their intimacy coaches for topics such as penis massage, vulva massage, and exploring sex positions. And more!
This is the best app for couples that lets you touch each other.
We love this app’s design and interface, gamifying it and making it fun – not like attending a class.
Another great thing is this app gives you the option to express what you’re looking for, including personal desire as well as non-cisgender preferences.
Dr. Gottman is arguably the world’s leading researcher on couples, and this is his app.
Similar to card decks, one person can download this app on their phone and read and discuss the questions together.
We were impressed with the Gottman Card Decks app. The truth is, we were expecting it to be corny, but it wasn’t.
Just like the couple’s card games that we recommend at the end of our article, ‘Board Games for Couples,’ these can be downloaded on your phone, free.
After Love Nudge, this is the next best free, relationship building app for married couples. But this is different because it’s a game app for couples.
The categories span topics like “Date Questions,” “Sex Questions,” and the relationship-building “Love Maps.” Here were some of the questions we got:
Date Questions: “What is something small that really makes your day?”
Sex Questions: “What, for you, is the difference (if any) between making love and having sex?”
Open-Ended Questions: “How have your friendships changed lately? Have you grown closer to some friends? More distant from others?”
Additionally, a few categories like “Give Appreciation” and “Expressing Empathy” are designed for one person to review and see how they can work on incorporating more of them into their day.
What Ryan and I liked so much about this app for married couples is that the questions were surprisingly thoughtful and high quality. It even goes into a “Salsa” series of mild, medium, and hot ideas on how to spice up your sex life.
The purpose of this app is to create connections and improve communication, and we think it achieves that. Even as a couple who has been together for nearly a decade, we found the questions relevant, new, and fun.
Plus, it’s free!
Cozi, the ultimate family organizer, with an impressive 4.8 out of 5 stars according to 209,000 ratings on the App Store.
Ryan and I have tried so many times to sync our Google calendars together and forgotten to share events. Finally, Cozi was our solution.
Cozi syncs the calendars you keep on your phone and laptop all into one and will send alerts to remind you of upcoming events.
The calendar is surprisingly clear and simple to view, giving you a nice daily view, and even a monthly view if you upgrade to a premium subscription.
Additionally, you can create shared grocery lists and to-do lists so that you and your spouse always have the most up-to-date information.
No more piecing together individual texts throughout the week like… Pick up bananas! Don’t forget to clean the windows!
When things are organized like this, the family is more efficient and gets things done faster.
If you aren’t already sharing your calendars and lists, it’s time to start using this app as a couple.
Getting a grasp on your finances as a couple is an important step in every relationship.
As we discuss in our Couple’s Finance Guide, transparency, and getting debt-skeletons out of the closet allows for opportunities to get on a track together and refocus your life goals.
Even for couples who already manage their finances on similar apps like Mint, Honeydue pulls double-work by allowing you link accounts and giving a better overall view of your finances as a couple.
Additionally, Honeydue has couple-centric features like setting budgets, bill reminders, and splitting expenses where you can settle up later.
Even if you don’t like discussing money, it’s important to optimize your spending habits and take a look at the big-picture of where your money goes every month.
This free app for married couples is a no-brainer.
Couple Game is similar to the Gottman Card Deck we discussed in #5, but a bit more automated and more topical.
It takes the form of a quiz where you link accounts. It asks both you and your partner questions, individually, and then you need to guess what the other person said.
This turns it into a great game for married couples, and you can get points based on how well you know your partner.
At the time of writing this, the Couple Game app only has 24 packs (with only 3 for free) meaning you could go through all of them in a day.
So while it’s fun, this wouldn’t be the best investment compared to our other couple’s game app, the Gottman Card Decks, unless you really needed an ice breaker to talk about specific topics.
The card decks include topics like politics, our home, sex and intimacy, future kids, philosophy & ethics, friendship, and more.
So, if you’ve been wondering what your partner thinks about kids, this might be a non-aggressive way of bringing it up. Also, this is a good app for couples with trust issues.
Overall, this is a fun app but don’t expect it to dive too deeply into the relationship or go beyond a couple of days worth of content, even when purchasing all of the packs.
How could we not include a fitness-style app into this mix? Walk The Distance is one of the best free apps for married couples who are active, outdoorsy, and adventurous.
I discovered this app a few months back when I was looking for information on hiking the Appalachian Trail. This app is for a walking or running competition between friends.
Invite your spouse and select an actual trail, like the Appalachian Trail (2,200 miles), Boston Marathon (26.2 miles), Paris (18 miles), or the Grand Canyon (9.6 miles) among many others.
The app links to your step data from Apple Health, so this app is only available to Apple users, whether with an iPhone or Apple Watch.
The map is then populated with how far you’ve gone, where you both are on the trail, and how far you’ve got left.
Plus, along the way, information about famous sites pop up, giving you smaller goals to reach and an actual, historic tour of your trail!
As we share during our 30-Day Weight Loss Challenge, you should be targeting 12,000 steps a day.
A recent study published in the journal, The Obesity Society, concluded that adult dieters who lost 30 pounds and maintained or continued to lose weight tracked 12,000 steps per day.
Overweight adults only tracked 6,500 steps. So get on the trail!
While not as sexy as a couple’s truth or dare app, we had to share 1Password with you, as it’s been a huge help to us since we started using it years ago.
With 1Password, you can rest at ease with cybersecurity and identity theft. If you’re like me, you either have repeating passwords.
And if you’re not, then you have some document or piece of paper floating around with all of your passwords in one place.
It’s time to move into the next century and secure your passwords the smart way. And, it will make your life easier, simpler, and just plain better.
Create private and shared “vaults” with all of your passwords in one place as well as your credit cards, passports, insurance cards, and other important information.
It’s highly secure and syncs across all of your devices, so you never need to look for a password again. All you have to do it remember one “master password” and it unlocks the vault to all of your passwords.
Secure your data, generate highly complex passwords, and share this with your spouse on a family plan, where you can include up to five family members.
If you don’t have a secure password manager, you’re not protecting your family.
We log into hundreds, if not thousands, of websites every year. Our information is everywhere. This is the first step in securing it.
Google Maps?! You may be asking why we included this one on the list. We did it because odds are, you already have this app on your phone. And we wanted to bring one free feature to your attention: location tracking and sharing.
We disagree fundamentally with the apps that track your location all of the time, but there are times when we do want to know where the other person is. Namely, when one of us goes on a long jog or takes a walk in a new city.
With the Google Maps app, you can share your real-time location for a specified amount of time (1-hour, 3-hours, until you manually turn it off, etc.). You also specify who you share your location with.
As someone who has thoroughly freaked out her husband multiple times when I decided to run 12-miles instead of the 3-miles as originally stated, this feature comes in handy.
While you may already know of Venmo for transferring money to and from friends, it’s an easy and helpful tool that we use weekly in our marriage.
Many of our married friends do as well. So, we’d be remiss not to include it!
Ryan and I have both personal accounts and joint bank accounts, so our money is spread everywhere. We also have personal and joint credit cards (we share our personal finance strategy in our article, ‘Couple’s Finance Guide.’)
While the Honeydue app above helps split the bill, Venmo makes it easy to transfer money across bank accounts.
These transfers can be kept private, each written with a descriptive note, and a record of all transactions is emailed monthly.
Helpful, convenient, and secure. No more writing checks to each other or trying to pay different balances on different credit cards. Everything can be settled up then and there.
Enjoy Your New Apps For Couples!
What apps for married couples have transformed and improved your relationship?
Write us a comment below on your favorite apps for married couples that have helped your relationship. Tell us why and we’ll add it to the list!
We Passed On These Apps For Couples
Throughout writing this article, I researched and used many, many apps, including apps with 16k 5-star reviews. Honestly, I didn’t love most of them.
Many apps for married couples seem too corny or basic. For example, I didn’t like the “My Love” app which tracks how long you’ve been together.
After being married, hopefully, you and your spouse can remember your anniversary dates.
I also didn’t like the app “Between,” which appears on many people’s lists of favorite couple’s apps.
To me, it’s worse than the messaging apps you likely already have on your phone (with our favorite being Whatsapp) and the clear typos in English made me worried about security.
Other apps like “Happy Couple” are cute and center on relationship quiz games, but they’re geared towards new couples and not married couples.
I would presume you already know your spouse’s favorite color by now!
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