These “would you rather” questions for couples spark fun and meaningful conversation about your relationship, personality, favorite hobbies, appetite for adventure, and career aspirations.
So, whether you’re on your first date or in your 50th year of marriage, these are the best “would you rather” questions for couples.
“Communication is key!” is the advice that my mother always gave me about my relationships.
But did you know that even couples who have been married for years don’t communicate as much as you think?
A recent British study found that the longer you’ve been in a relationship, the less you’ll talk over a 60-minute date night dinner.
Couples who are dating talk around 50 minutes of the hour-long date.
Newlyweds start dropping down to 40 minutes.
Couples married for 20 years talk for around 21 minutes.
Once you hit your golden anniversary (50 years), you’re talking on average only 3 minutes an hour!
The troubling thing is, we’ve heard these stats elsewhere as well. Terrifying but true.
According to Dr. Gottman of the relationship research Gottman Institute, most couples only talk meaningfully for ~35 minutes a week when you take out logistical talks (about kids, meals, your schedule, etc.)
That’s 5 minutes a day.
So, no matter if you’re on your 1st date with your crush or your 1,000th as a married couple, we could all use some fun ideas on how to connect on a deeper, more meaningful level.
One fun way to do it over dinner or date night is with these “Would You Rather” questions for couples.
How to Play “Would You Rather” for Couples
“Would you rather” questions for couples is a game where you take turns asking each other the same question from a list.
Each question poses two outcomes, and you must choose which one you prefer (even if you have to pick the lesser of two evils!)
For example, “Would you rather go on a trip or receive a nice present?”
Your ideal answer may be somewhere in between, but you’re forced to think and pick just one. Once you both share, compare, and have a deeper discussion about why you picked your answer, or share what you really wanted to say.
Similar to “this or that” questions for couples, the questions are designed to explore both your relationship and personal goals, together.
Unlike asking typical “yes” or “no” questions that can stunt conversation, these questions promote discussion and creativity.
Have fun with it! Here are some additional tips to follow while asking these “what would you rather” questions for couples:
- Turn off cell phones so there are no distractions. This will help you connect more fully.
- Listen to your partner instead of planning your response to have a more engaged conversation.
- Don’t attack your partner if you disagree with their answer, this is where the best discussions can come into play!
Would You Rather Questions for Couples
Below are 70 “this or that” prompts to ask your partner. Have fun with it, take your time on each question, and get ready to learn something new!
We’ve broken up the questions into five categories:
- Relationship and romance
Through these questions, explore and continue to personalize your questions to suit your unique relationship. These would you rather questions for adults will get you started!
1. “Would You Rather” Questions About Relationships
Would you rather have passion or stability in a relationship?
Would you rather elope or throw a big wedding?
Would you rather have a no children or eight?
Would you rather me cook a special dinner or take you out to a restaurant?
Would you rather talk on the phone or communicate by text?
Would you rather move in with your partner before or after marriage?
Would you rather spend the weekend hiking in the mountains or at an all-inclusive beach resort?
Would you rather go on a trip or receive a nice present?
Would you rather have all girls or boys as children?
Would you rather go on a couple’s retreat or a yoga retreat?
Would you rather go on a blind date or meet the person beforehand?
Would you rather go to bed angry and sleep on it or discuss problems immediately?
Would you rather go on many extravagant dates or periodic vacations?
Would you rather be a hopeless romantic or a cynical realist?
Would you rather stay in a bad marriage or get a divorce?
Would you rather adopt children or have your own?
Would you rather have a listening ear or a helper to find solutions when you have a problem?
2. Travel “This or That” Questions For Couples
Would you rather live somewhere extremely hot or extremely cold?
Would you rather be close to family or settle in a new country for the one you love?
Would you rather climb Mount Everest or dive in a deepsea submarine to the deepest depths of the ocean?
Would you rather travel forever or live in one foreign country, fully integrated into the community?
Would you rather travel somewhere by plane or take road trips?
Would you rather join a tour or a cruise, or plan a big trip on your own?
Would you rather travel to a new place every vacation or return to your favorite spots?
Would you rather have a relaxing or an adventurous vacation?
Would you rather travel to a new country that has great food or great history?
Would you rather swim with dolphins or swim with sharks?
Would you rather go on a trip that you planned or one that your partner planned?
3. Career Questions
If you won the lottery, would you rather retire forever or start your own company?
Would you rather get a $50,000 raise or 2 more months of vacation days a year?
Would you rather be your own boss or work for someone else?
Would you rather stay in your current industry or change things up and switch to a new job?
Would you rather have a fulfilling job or a well-paid job?
Would you rather ask for a promotion or wait for it to happen?
Would you rather keep your colleagues at work or have fun, personal relationships with them after hours as well?
4. “Would You Rather” Questions About Hobbies
Would you rather snowboard or ski?
Would you rather be a personal trainer or a personal chef?
Would you rather run an ultramarathon or an Iron Man?
Would you rather fully renovate an old home or buy a new one?
Would you rather scuba dive or skydive?
Would you rather never watch a movie again or never read a book again?
Would you rather never watch TV again or never listen to music again?
Would you rather reignite a childhood hobby or start a new one?
Would you rather learn how to play an instrument or learn how to sing?
Would you rather make your mark on history for being a great thinker or a great inventor?
Would you rather play on a sports team or play an individual sport?
Would you rather be a famous singer or a famous actor?
5. Personality Questions
Would you rather have a cat or a dog?
Would you rather go back in time or go forward into the future?
Would you rather be famous or would you rather be rich?
Would you rather be the president or the vice president of the country?
Would you rather live in the mountains or live on the beach?
Would you rather earn 1 million dollars today or 10 million dollars in ten years?
Would you rather be a comedian or a supermodel?
Would you rather always be 20 minutes early or late?
Would you rather never have chocolate or coffee ever again?
Would you rather have breakfast for dinner or dinner for breakfast?
Would you rather stay up late or get up early?
Would you rather never eat meat again or never eat carbs (like pasta and bread) again?
Would you rather save your money or spend it?
Would you rather live in a city or live in the countryside?
Would you rather eat bugs or become vegan?
Would you rather be able to read people’s minds or see the future?
Would you rather be able to fly or become invisible?
Would you rather be a great listener or a great speech giver?
Would you rather not have a cell phone or not have a TV?
Would you rather have a housekeeper or a personal chef?
Would you rather dine out for every meal or cook them all yourself?
Would you rather gamble on the stock market or at a casino?
Would you rather hang out at a bar or go dancing at a club?
We hope these “would you rather” questions are fun and spark meaningful conversation.
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