Relationship Goals From Healthy, Inspiring Couples
In our Couple Goals Interview Series we asked five of the couples who have always inspired us — from a pair of kung fu disciples to a registered dietician to a professional pickup artist — about real-talk on fitness, diet, and healthy relationship goals.
In this article, we highlight our favorite healthy relationship advice.
relationship goals for couples
We interviewed five power duos in our Couple Goals Interview Series. These couples are great, real-life examples of relationship goals that we should all have.
Below, we highlighted our favorite quotes to help you optimize your fitness, nutrition, lifestyle, and relationship goals as a couple.
At the end of the article, we’ll summarize the top relationship goals for couples.
You might be wondering, what does couple goals or relationship goals mean? To us, two people are “couple goals” or “relationship goals” when they’re excelling at something that all couples strive for in their relationship.
The couples interviewed are great examples of relationship goals because they are striving in their fitness, nutrition, lifestyle, and relationship.
Let’s meet our relationship goals couples!
Fitness Relationship Goals
How do you maintain a fitness routine while living out of a backpack?
“We’ve maintained fitness in a few ways, and even collected all our healthy habits and put them into a list! Most of them have to do with traveling long-term and treating travel like a lifestyle, not a vacation. The longer we stay in a place, the more options we have and the more habits we can build.”
“In Lima, Peru, where we spent a month, Dan was a member at the CrossFit gym and Becca had a month-long unlimited yoga pass to a local studio chain with several locations in downtown Lima. We both were working out around four times a week and felt our best.”
“We did this system also in Medellin, Colombia, with Becca waking up early to get to 8 am yoga sessions, and with Dan sacrificing other nighttime activities to go to a 7 PM or 8 PM CrossFit class.”
What advice do you have for couples with the goal to start working out together?
Amy: “For me, the biggest piece of advice I have is to be patient. Give your partner some slack and hopefully, they’re giving you some slack in the areas that you need some more time to work on. No one is perfect, so just being really understanding that we all have different reasons for fitness and for working out.”
“Also, really understanding that your partner may need some more time and not to get frustrated with them when they make a mistake or when they don’t do something that you want them to do because it is a journey together.”
“Looking back, I would never have thought, “Fitness is now a part of our life.” When we met, it just wasn’t. If you had asked us, “What do you guys like to do?” we would never have said that fitness was really important for all of these reasons.”
AJ: “I, as the one who was dragged, kicking and screaming, sometimes fought the journey a little bit. Our fitness couple goals were intimidating at first. Amy, as you know, is in incredible shape. It’s always been incredibly important to her.”
“For me, it was intimidating signing up for some of these classes, knowing that I might not be the fastest or the strongest, and wondering if everyone will be looking at me. I had to work through my own insecurities around fitness, so Amy’s patience definitely paid off.”
“The other thing is to keep trying. As we said, we tried probably thirty different classes together. We were doing circuits and we were doing pilates. Slowly but surely, it just opened my mind up to all of these possibilities around fitness and we found a few things that worked and then we just stuck with them.”
“So you know it’s probably not going to happen right out of the gate where you just bond. There’s usually going to be one partner who at first will be a little bit more fitness-oriented and probably in a little bit better shape. Being patient with the other partner and allowing them opportunities to find their own rhythm is important.”
Amy: “I want to add that finding a shared goal as a couple is really helpful if you don’t know where to begin. The last thing is just to have fun. We had a lot of fun, like AJ said, doing every class under the sun like salsa dancing in Tulum! Now I’m trying to drag him to a new dance class in LA.”
AJ: “Hip hop dance class is up next!”
Amy: Neither of us are good dancers but that’s not the point. It’s just always finding new ways for us to bond and connect. It’s a fun date night and a nice change from just dinner, drinks, or a movie!
Fitness Relationship Goals Quotes:
“So that’s really what inspired our gym couple goals, we were just trying a bunch of different things.” -Amy
“Her persistence started to pay off!” -AJ
“What really helped us bond together as a couple was having that shared goal and shared milestone to work towards and work on together.” -Amy
“The only real compromises we had to talk about was factoring in Dan’s time to run and train for marathons, but would you believe it? After some time together, Becca started using that time to try running, also! ” -Becca
“Supporting each other and holding each other accountable has been really important for us while merging our fitness journeys.” -Amy
“Thankfully Amy has guided me towards the early morning rise, and that habit has helped tremendously.” -AJ
“I’ve grown personally, and I have more energy. Now, when we’re traveling, we look for more active things to do and always try to get that workout in to start our day no matter where we are.” -Amy
“We both were working out around four times a week and felt our best.” -Becca
“The biggest piece of advice I have is to be patient and understanding that we all have different reasons for fitness and for working out.” -Amy
“It’s important to give yourself time to recover. As long as you don’t go for too many days without training, it won’t become a habit.” -Michelle
“Sometimes I’ll supplement the class workouts with a HIIT circuit that doesn’t take up too much time. They’re so short that there’s really no excuse not to do it!” -Michelle
Nutrition Relationship Goals
You’ve traveled around the world — what health practices have you learned from other cultures that you now practice?
“Eating around the world seems kiiiind of standard and similar to how we eat at home until you get to Asia. It’s here that Becca learned to drink ‘kai shui,’ or ‘hot water,’ in Chinese, as a way of warming up your insides. This is said to cure anything fast, in China, and most people will instruct you to drink hot water if you say you’re feeling under the weather.”
“Next is saving drinking any type of liquid until the end of the meal. This is a practice mostly from South Asia, but seems to be practiced a bit in East Asia as well. If you save all drinking (of any liquid or beverage) until you’ve finished your solid food, it’s better for digestion. This practice allows the body to direct energy toward breaking down food, with liquids coming in afterward.”
“Lastly, a good one from East Asia yet again is to avoid foods that are very cold. If you think about it, this is very logical, considering that the body is 98.6 °F or 37 °C. Shouldn’t it come as a shock to the body if you put something near-freezing inside, even if you want to cool off?”
“After traveling around Asia, you start to notice that very few foods are served cold, and most are cooked. People in the West may scoff at the fact that Chinese food, for example, is always fried, steamed or cooked in some way, but the truth is… the body has an easier time breaking down foods that are hot and cooked.”
What’s your take on the mainstream diet culture that we see today?
“I think that taking care of our bodies, is very important. Often, the way diet culture aims to do this is by convincing us that we are flawed and that if we buy into some diet, we will be happier and more worthy in our society.”
“The body-positive model teaches us to employ self-compassion while expanding on our beauty ideals, so we can start from a place of worthiness and feel empowered to trust our intuition about what is right for us.”
“With diets, I always felt like I had to attain some goal by starving myself or that I was weak-willed if I failed in my attempts. Now, I don’t fall into shame-cycles and can do my best to care for myself in any moment.”
Nutrition Relationship Goals Quotes:
“I needed room in my diet for foods that I feared because of my history with dieting and my eating disorder.” -Megan
“Within our first few dates, we stopped going out to eat and drink, and we started cooking together.” -Becca
“With diets, I always felt like I had to attain some goal by starving myself or that I was weak-willed if I failed in my attempts.” -Megan
“We love to cook so we rarely dine out, but rather prepare most meals at home.” -Anne
“I had to learn that eating pizza, burgers, and ice cream wasn’t going to kill me and that these foods can all be a part of a balanced diet and fit into our nutrition goals as a couple.” -Megan
“If you save all drinking (of any liquid or beverage) until you’ve finished your solid food, it’s better for digestion.” -Becca
“I am more conscious about choosing nutrient-dense foods” -Adam
“I eat when I am hungry and usually stop before I am full. I make space in my diet for candy, chips, pizza, doughnuts, etc.; and because I allow myself to have those things, I find that I don’t want them as often as I did when I told myself I couldn’t have them.” -Megan
“What I like to do is be healthier during the week and more relaxed over the weekends because you don’t want to deprive yourself either. If you have the discipline and a plan then you can allow for flexibility.” -Michelle
“We both do at least a 12-hour overnight fast, and begin our days with meditation, journaling, lemon water, tea, and a smoothie.” -Anne
Lifestyle Relationship Goals
What is your health routine and what is the most critical part (ie. having a trainer, strategy, goal, better nutrition, accountability buddy, etc.)?
Amy: “I think honestly all of them but we’ve seen the most results by really creating a routine. I really commend you for living on the go and staying motivated because I think we rely on each other quite a bit and other factors to stay motivated. I know having a trainer has been really helpful for AJ.”
AJ: “I think the other big thing was that we told people about our goal to run this half marathon as a couple. Once you tell people and you share it with people who are close to you, it just adds that extra layer of accountability. So you really couldn’t back out. I set the goal with my trainer, I told the goal to my friends, and Amy was participating in the training with me.”
“I had all of that accountability from the trainer to running with Amy to my friends being like, “Hey the race is coming up, how’s it going? How’s the training going?” So I think a lot of times it’s difficult to find the motivation on your own and to get the accountability on your own. Involving other people to amp things up has worked really well.”
Amy: “Definitely discipline is key and having a little bit of help in that area has really helped us over the last couple of years.”
What does your daily health and self-care routine look like?
“Health to us is all encompassing. It’s not just the food we put into our bodies on a daily basis, but all the other ways we consume and nourish ourselves. We both do at least a 12-hour overnight fast, and begin our days with meditation, journaling, lemon water, tea, and a smoothie.”
“We opt for no phones for at least the first hour upon waking if we can help it. Our smoothies are packed with all kinds of goodness, including a few supplements we’ve grown to trust over the years.”
“Getting some type of movement/activity in is key to a healthy routine! Whether it’s going for a walk outside, yoga class, rock climbing, foraging for mushrooms, or surfing (outdoors is always preferred as we’re both nature junkies!)”
“We love to cook so we rarely dine out, but rather prepare most meals at home.”
“In addition to consuming good food and staying active, we both love to read and listen to podcasts. Of course we listen to some for fun/leisure, but we also have our go-to’s for learning and motivation. This is all part of a healthy routine!”
Lifestyle Relationship Goals Quotes:
“Bad habits? Drinking was a big one.” -AJ
“Make it fun! It’s hard to begin a new habit no matter what it is. Being healthy together can be so rewarding and fun at the same time.” -Anne
“Instead of drinks, let’s go on a hike, or do a class together…” -AJ
“On a separate note, we spend most of our lives working and I find it’s important to choose a career that is fulfilling to you on different levels.” -Michelle
“Without putting health first, we absolutely wouldn’t have been able to accomplish all we have at this point in our life.” -Anne
“They say it’s 10% learning and 90% practice. Without constant guidance, it takes a much longer time to advance in skill.” -Michelle
“Hopefully, you find an activity that you both enjoy, otherwise you’re less likely to stick with it.” -Michelle
“Yoga can be such an intimate act alone, so practicing together makes it that much more special. Prioritizing yoga dates and agreeing on what style and flow you want to practice is key!” -Anne
How has each of your diets and nutrition transformed as a couple once Jo became an RD?
Jo: “I think this is another area where we have found balance. I had a very severe eating disorder, so I needed to develop a better relationship with food and my body.”
“I had to learn that eating pizza, burgers, and ice cream wasn’t going to kill me and that these foods can all be a part of a balanced diet and fit into our nutrition goals as a couple.”
Adam: Since meeting Jo, I am more conscious about reading nutrition facts labels and choosing nutrient-dense foods.
Have the benefits of getting healthier together spilled over to other areas of your lives?
Jon: “I don’t think we’re concentrating so much as getting healthier together, it’s more like growing together. This has spilled over to other parts of our lives because when we are together and when we concentrate on ourselves, we definitely have more spells of happiness.”
Michelle: “Martial arts teaches you to listen to better understand yourself and others. I’ve found that the more I listen and try to be in the present, the better my interactions are. So in a sense, professionally, you also become more aware of being in the moment and trying to listen to the other side and understand differences in common to reach a goal.”
“The lessons that we learn in martial arts which I would categorize as “getting healthier” would be more on the mental and emotional side.
On the physical side, I don’t think I was ever the kind of person to sit on a beach without doing anything. I would have to get up and walk around so anytime we go on a trip, we always get up to explore a lot of areas!”
What advice do you have for couples who want to get healthy together?
“Make it fun! It’s hard to begin a new habit no matter what it is. Being healthy together can be so rewarding and fun at the same time. Start with something simple — going for a walk in your favorite park, exploring a new part of the city by foot, or trying a new fruit or vegetable you’re unfamiliar with at the local farmer’s market. Enjoying the healthy activity will make you want to do it again!”
“Here’s a fun game we play while traveling… anytime you see a new fruit at the market, immediately purchase it and eat it on the spot. It’s led to so many unique experiences and the locals often get a kick out of it.”
Michelle: “First, be specific about your own goals because they may not be the same as your partner’s. It’s important to distinguish the differences so you can support your partner in uncommon goals as well as common ones.”
“Second, hopefully you find an activity that you both enjoy, otherwise you’re less likely to stick with it.”
“Third, be open minded and try something new.”
“Last, use your strengths and work on your weaknesses to build new habits. One partner might be more disciplined in starting the activity despite both feeling unmotivated that day. The other might be more skilled at preparing nutritious meals. Sometimes one has that extra burst of energy that helps both partners reach a bit further. You really need to work as a team to utilize your strengths but also to work on your weaknesses as well.”
Jon: “That about covers it! Communication is key and you have to support the other, whether physically, mentally, emotionally. That definitely helps and I know from my experience that it helps me.”
Relationship Goals Quotes:
“It took a really long time for us to find shared interests and it took a really long time for us to end up on the same schedule but it’s helped our relationship a lot.” -Amy
“We do a date night weekly to try out some new ethnic restaurants.” -Becca
“Adam and I find a lot of confidence and gratitude for our bodies from the difficult trails we have completed.” -Megan
“I don’t think we’re concentrating so much as getting healthier together, it’s more like growing together. This has spilled over to other parts of our lives because when we are together and when we concentrate on ourselves, we definitely have more spells of happiness.” -Jon
“You really need to work as a team to utilize your strengths but also to work on your weaknesses as well.” -Michelle
“In fact, our Valentine’s Day is usually cooking one of our favorite meals and spending quality time in the kitchen together.” -Becca
Relationship Goals For Couples
We have learned a lot from these relationship goals couples. The following are takeaways from these interviews. Implement these ideas into your relationship to improve your fitness, nutrition, and habits together. The benefits will spill over into all areas of life, including your relationship.
- Have variety in your fitness plan and be open to new fitness or gym opportunities.
- Have a combined goal that you are both working toward, like a half-marathon.
- If you need to overcome an imbalance in fitness levels, be patient but persistent.
- With a busy schedule, morning is the best time to workout.
- Most importantly, have fun together as your couple’s fitness goals evolve.
- Whatever your fitness routine, supplement it with short cardio or strength routines to improve performance and prevent injury.
- Consistently working out, at least 4 times a week, is one of the secrets to lifelong fitness.
- Drinking is a bad habit, but you can enjoy alcohol in moderation and live a healthy lifestyle
- Dieting methods can hurt your health physically and emotionally. Not to mention, the results are not sustainable.
- Depriving yourself of foods you love, like pizza or cheese cake, is a bad idea. Instead, focus on eating the most nutrient dense foods at least 80% of the time.
- A 12-hour overnight fast, or practicing intermittent fasting, helps your body detox and improves mental focus, especially in the morning.
- Learn to cook healthy and excellent tasting meals at home. Make it a ritual. This is far more healthy, cost effective, and rewarding than dining out for every meal.
- Challenging your body physically and mentally increases confidence and makes an experience more memorable. You should definitely get out an hike as a couple!
- We spend much of our lives working. Selecting a fulfilling career is critical to your happiness.
- Accomplishing your goals is 10% learning and 90% taking action. You have to walk the walk. Self-help books don’t work… unless you do.
- Self-care and a focus on growing together will increase happiness levels and improve your relationship.
- Practice yoga together as a couple. It’s so healthy for your mind, body, and relationship. You can start at home with these couple’s yoga poses you can actually do.
- Prioritize your health. The positive effects will bolster every aspect of your life. If you struggle to make health a priority, you need to find your WHY.
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